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Changing Your Mindset – opt For Positivism

We can choose how we frame all of our life experiences. And how we choose to frame our experiences sets the stage for our emotional state which often inspire our NEXT set of experiences.

This is the reason people who go about their day with a frown on their face and a terrible attitude end up having bad event after bad event spring up all around them. Their negative mindset becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy... they curse themselves and kill their chances of being happy.

In many important ways we create our own reality.

Our mindset can be thought of as the script writer or director of our life experiences and we can choose the plot of our story. When we opt for positivity, what seemed like a sad tale or even a horror movie can become a love story or adventure!

Are you ready to change your life's plot by opting for positivism? Great, I thought you would be!

These ideas will help.

Listen To Music (and watch movies) That Lift Your Mood.

Where we turn to for entertainment has a great effect on how we view the world. Dark and depressing music and movies can make it very difficult for us to shift our mindset towards positivism.

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This only makes sense doesn't it?

Take a look at what you listen to in the car and on your MP3 player. Is this music that makes you smile and think of life's bright possibilities or does it have the opposite effect? The same question should be asked about the movies and television shows you watch for entertainment.

Making a move to clean these things up can have a tremendous effect on your subconscious mind. Of course an occasional scary movie won't hurt if that's what you enjoy, but do your best to indulge in music and movies that work with your goal of thinking positive, NOT against it.

Challenge Your Negative Thoughts 

Immediately with Positivism

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Negative thoughts can and will creep into our minds. It's unavoidable, especially in the beginning when we are just picking up the habit of holding a positive mindset. The trick is not letting them take root. By challenging them immediately with positivism we can deflate them of having any real influence over us. Whenever you feel yourself thinking negatively, re-frame your thoughts and consider the positive side of what's occurring. For this technique to work properly you must QUICKLY challenge these negative thoughts. The more you delay the more harm they will do.

Make A Powerful Set Of Affirmations.

We've already explored the power our words hold over our happiness. Now let's go deeper and use this knowledge to help boost our mindset with a daily affirmation.

An affirmation is simply a positive statement that you repeat to yourself first thing in the morning and before you go to sleep in the evening. It can also be used whenever you feel stressed out or your thoughts are drifting away from positivism.

Now you can write your own or you can use this famous one created by one of the original self-help authors in the early 1900's... "Each day, in every way, I am getting better and better". If you choose to write your own be sure to phrase things that you want and appreciate NOT negative things you're trying to avoid. So instead of saying "I'm not fat" you would say "I am fit and healthy". It's a secret to how our minds work that will make your affirmations take hold quicker and with more effect. Our minds can be tricky things!

The more positive your mindset, the happier you will be. So please take these suggestions and ideas very seriously.

WHY ARE YOU NOT HAPPY? Part 3

Learn To Love Yourself

 Before we can really love anyone else with conviction we need to learn to love ourselves. It's the first step towards achieving happiness, whose importance can't be overstated.

Once you learn to love that person looking back at you in the mirror you're sure to find the rest of our ideas and methods here much less of a struggle to implement. Loving yourself can be thought of as the oil that allows the internal machine of your happiness to run smoothly and efficiently. It's that vital to what we're trying to achieve!

Self-image issues can be hard to overcome if you're not familiar with the tried and true techniques that experts have developed to build self-esteem.

Put these following things into action and you may be shocked at how quickly you learn to love yourself. I've seen them work their magic again and again and there's no reason they won't work for you too!

Acknowledge Your Accomplishments

We can often be our own harshest critics, while in reality if we'd like to be happier we should be our very own biggest fan! Stop ignoring your accomplishments, whether in business, your social life, athletics or beyond. You should even be patting yourself on the back for caring enough about your own self-development to be studying this guide. Give yourself credit. You deserve it.

Remember Looks Are In The Eye Of The Beholder

Ask many models if they feel like they are beautiful and they'll tell you a firm "no". This is despite their becoming quite wealthy over the fact others find them attractive. This strange paradox is repeated again and again. If you look in the mirror and find yourself thinking that you are less than attractive, remind yourself that many people are sure to disagree. I guarantee it.

Be More Patient With Yourself

Sometimes we make mistakes. When you love someone and they stumble are you incredibly harsh with them? If you are you shouldn't be. And when you are learning to love yourself you shouldn't be harsh with yourself when you hit a bump in the road either. Patience is a virtue. Being more patient with yourself will relieve a huge amount of stress and pressure. Try it and see if you aren't happier almost immediately.

Occasionally Do Something REALLY Nice For Yourself

You may be picking up on the idea that treating yourself better is a path to learning how to love yourself. That's true as could be. Not only consciously, but perhaps more importantly on a subconscious level. When we've raised our sense of self-worth in our subconscious minds, things really fall into place.

Do you ever do anything nice for yourself?     

Maybe going to a movie or a restaurant you wanted to check out. Or picking up a little extra something to help you with that hobby you love. If you don't do this often, you need to start too. Pick a night a month (say the third Saturday night if you need a suggestion) and do something really nice for yourself. When you love yourself you deserve this type of treatment, so enjoy.

Now these may sound like simple suggestions, but they work. Positive self-change isn't always complicated. Loving yourself and happiness come hand in hand, so give these tips a try and watch and see each day feel better than the last.

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WHY ARE YOU NOT HAPPY? - Part 2

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WHY ARE YOU NOT HAPPY?

It makes very good sense to consider why you aren't happy. After all, it's much easier to cure a problem when you have an understanding of some of its causes and symptoms.

Now it’s possible you may have some unique issue that's wrecking your sense of well being. In that case, some serious self-reflection is in order. But my guess is you will be much, much more likely to find the root of your unhappiness in the list that follows. These are the things that drag the vast majority of us down, so take a minute to know your enemy!

You are a Worrier

The world can be roughly split between worriers and warriors. Those who over-worry are, of course, much unhappier. Now being a "warrior", in this sense, has nothing to do with things like violence or the military. It's

all about having the courage to face what life has to offer. How much time a day and night do you spend worrying? Don't you think there's much more constructive ways to spend your time? Of course there is.

You are a Grudge Holder

There's times in life when people do things to us that are downright nasty. It's a fact which we can't escape. What we can escape however is how we react to these situations. By holding a grudge we release a sort of slow poison in our own system that's guaranteed to slowly kill our happiness. Not only does this NOT effect the person who did us wrong, but it actually damages us on top of whatever wrong we initially experienced (real or imagined). Forgiving and forgetting has been universal spiritual advice for a good reason. It keeps us happy!

You Play the Comparison Game

Happiness is not about what you "have" compared to others, despite what the overwhelmingly materialistic bias of our culture may tell you. If your neighbor has the latest television, you buying the same television the next

day won't ever make you truly happy. Happiness is based on internal factors more than not, and when you play the comparison game I can guarantee you, you will NEVER come out a winner.

You Isolate Yourself

Loneliness is a terrible feeling. Things seem much worse and problems much more daunting when you consider and face them alone. If you have the tendency to isolate yourself this could be a huge part of why you feel unhappy. Humans are social creatures. We need to be around others who we care about and who care about us to be happy.

You Surround Yourself with Negative People

Negative people spread unhappiness like a virus. If you look at your inner circle and it has more than its share of those who never have a good word to say, it's time to make a big change. Not only is their outlook hurting their own chance of happiness, it's hurting yours too!

You are Unhealthy

Poor diet and lack of exercise creates the perfect environment for unhappiness to take root. Your body is your temple and when it's treated like a garbage can it's not a shock that happiness will escape you. Have you ever noticed how much more pleasant fit people tend to be?

Now this list isn't exhaustive, but it should be enough to give you an idea which area (or areas) may be causing you the most difficulty. Understanding the problem is our first step to overcoming it. So don't worry, happiness is right around the corner!

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Why Worry? Be Happy - Part 1

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"Don't worry be happy". Now no one sensible can deny that's good advice, but unfortunately for many of us it can be a difficult request to follow. It shouldn't be, but it is. The world and all its pressures and anxieties appears to be almost designed to keep us from smiling much of the time. We just don't seem able to, despite how much we'd love to. We reach out in all sorts of strange and unusual ways to find happiness and still it escapes us.

Now this may sound dark, but don't let it get you down. I'm here to bring you good news. Great news in fact.

If you want to be happy, you've come to the right place!

I've spent years, pondering the question of why some people are happy despite being in what may seem like bad conditions to most of us looking in from the outside,

and why other people who seem to have every advantage in life still are rarely smiling at all.

hen you take the time to really study how these two sets of people approach life the answer to the "happiness question" becomes pretty clear.

We can choose to become the masters of our emotions, we can make smart lifestyle and social choices that will almost ensure that we find ourselves happy at the end of the the day. No matter what we face.

Or we can do the exact opposite.

My guess is if you find yourself reading this Guide you're the type of person who's just like me. Interested in doing what you can to get the most out of life. To maximize your potential and your enjoyment every day. To crack the happiness code!

That's what the purpose of this Guide is.

I can't wait to share with you what I've learned about this exciting subject.

I can almost guarantee if you take the time to not just read what I've written in these pages, but to work with

the ideas and methods I'm about to provide you with, your entire outlook on life will change for the better. We're not talking a small change either. We're talking about a huge, revolutionary change. As long as you approach these ideas with a positive attitude and open mind. And most importantly, as long as you are willing to TAKE ACTION with what you will learn.

Don't doubt it, when you find yourself happier each and every day there's no way your quality of life won't skyrocket.

And when you find yourself happier each and every day there's no way your social life won't improve dynamically. In fact ALL of your relationships will be reborn.

And don't be surprised when your job get's a lot more enjoyable too. You may even find yourself getting raises you never expected. I know I did!

Consider this your new Handbook in the constant, never ending search for happiness. It won't let you down, as long as you take effort and don't let yourself down.

I'm grateful to be alongside you for the start of your journey. I think you're going to exceed both of our wildest expectations!

Let's get to it. We don't have any time to waste.

...to be continued

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Anxiety Disorders

These debilitating episodes are more likely to occur during times of high stress.

It's also common for symptoms of clinical depression to be present in people with anxiety disorders.

Treatment includes behavioral therapy, lifestyle changes and medications. Sometimes a combination of all three is needed. Occasionally, a change in lifestyle is all that is needed.

Mainstream treatment generally consists of a combination of prescription medications and referral to a cognitive behavioral therapist. This treatment method is often met with controversy. Some studies show this combination is more effective than either method alone, while other studies have shown that the majority of patients gain more benefits from the medications and very little from the behavioral treatments.

The best treatment may depend on the genetics of the individual sufferer as well as environmental factors. Working closely with a counselor, psychiatrist or therapist will aid in determining the best treatment methods.      

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    

Happiness

Having said this, even this sort of happiness is a product of positive thinking and positive action, with good fortune lending a helping hand. In short, it is a product of will in relatively favorable circumstances. But isn't it peculiar to imply that happiness can be of one sort or another?  Are there not simply happiness and unhappiness?  I think not. The sort of happiness that the sage talks about is compatible with misfortune. It is preeminently a doing from within – while without, the only prerequisite for it is that the sage be alive and capable of thought. It is a feeling of serenity, of being at peace with his situation and his conscience, as a well-adjusted and fully committed servant of life, of humanity, of God as he sees them.

However conscious he is of the subjectiveness – i.e., the individual limitations and hence the imperfection – of his view, he does live by it with utmost faithfulness, if also with a willingness to reevaluate it critically when he catches himself out in a misstep. His wisdom is forever a work in progress; it is always laced with some form of foolishness, which leaves him open to ridicule. Humility and compassion, plus humor are therefore qualities that he cultivates. He mocks and forgives himself, and above all strives to improve. He shows no complacency, but an acceptance of his humanness that he is intent on bringing to the highest possible degree of truth and nobility. And this delicate blend of resignation and struggle alone – in any situation, favorable or not – is indeed the secret of his happiness, which admittedly is a dry manner of joy that fills the mind rather than the heart.

It follows that this happiness leaves something to be desired: happiness in the fullest sense of the word (a state of fulfillment, when everything is going our way, in terms of results as well as efforts), which is a joy, ever so sweet, that fills both the mind and the heart. When the sage experiences this supreme happiness, he rightly feels blessed, and knows how precarious it is. Furthermore, he accepts this precariousness, or the fact that suffering and ultimately death loom ahead. Only battles are won in the war of life that will inevitably – despite every valiant effort to prevail – end in defeat. 

Some will say that happiness in its so-called fullest sense leaves something more to be desired: the power to make this happiness infinite: immeasurably great and unlimited in duration. Among them, some will choose the path of faith, which allegedly leads to a heavenly afterlife, whereas some will choose the path of reason, which admits of no rosy belief based on wishful thinking and unbridled trust. This path leads nowhere as far as the beyond is concerned, or rather somewhere that is unknown – presumably so different from what is known that it totally exceeds our ability to conceive of its nature. 

I count among these proponents of reason, these infidels, to whom the only source of meaning is not a paradisiacal destination, whose existence is supported by no credible evidence, but the journey itself, a rugged and uphill journey to be sure, with an abundance of twists and turns, some of which are propitious, others not. This journey is well worth the trouble, in my opinion. It is so independently of the above-mentioned destination, which people are free to pursue blindly or regard with skepticism (and with detachment to boot, in the best case scenario). It is all about the dignity of living and loving and the pleasure of succeeding in these difficult assignments. From this perspective, the purpose of life is none other than life itself, in partnership with our fellow creatures; and happiness is made possible – within certain limits – by our striving to achieve this worthy, albeit humble purpose.

The limits imposed upon worldly happiness may initially stick in our craw, but after due consideration, as we realize that life without these limits would be death, we accept them, and better still we welcome them. Life is by definition a dynamic state that presupposes a perpetual tension between desires and their satisfaction. Render this satisfaction absolute, you resolve this tension and consequently reduce life to nothing; i.e., something as inert as a stone. And this nothing – this inert something – is death, as I just pointed out. Not a brilliant prospect in the eyes of a life lover!

Anxiety Attacks

Anxiety or panic attacks are sudden periods of intense anxiety, fear and discomfort. While these attacks might seem to happen for no reason, they're actually the body's response to what it perceives as the need for fight or flight.

The attacks usually last about ten minutes, but can be as short as one minute. In severe cases, these attacks can happen in cycles. These cycles may last for extended periods. These cycles can cause anticipation anxiety between episodes.

Physical symptoms of anxiety attacks generally include shortness of breath, heart palpitations and sweating. Tingling and numbness in the extremities, dizziness, lightheadedness, headaches and nausea are also commonly experienced. These may appear to be random, but they're actually the result of the body's preparations for protection.

The anxiety attack is brought on by a sudden onset of fear. In response, the body releases adrenaline followed by increases in the heart and breathing rate and production of sweat (to regulate body temperature). These actions prepare the body for the physical activities of fighting or escaping. Because the anticipated strenuous activity rarely follows the panic attack, these reactions result in physical discomfort.

The increased heart rate is felt as heart palpitations. Rapid breathing (hyperventilation) results in a drop in carbon dioxide levels in the lungs and blood. This leads to the tingling, numbness, dizziness and lightheadedness. The adrenaline causes a narrowing of the blood vessels which results in less blood flow to the head. This also contributes to the lightheadedness and headaches.