Why Are You Not Happy - part 4

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Changing Your Mindset – opt For Positivism

We can choose how we frame all of our life experiences. And how we choose to frame our experiences sets the stage for our emotional state which often inspire our NEXT set of experiences.

This is the reason people who go about their day with a frown on their face and a terrible attitude end up having bad event after bad event spring up all around them. Their negative mindset becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy... they curse themselves and kill their chances of being happy.

In many important ways we create our own reality.

Our mindset can be thought of as the script writer or director of our life experiences and we can choose the plot of our story. When we opt for positivity, what seemed like a sad tale or even a horror movie can become a love story or adventure!

Are you ready to change your life's plot by opting for positivism? Great, I thought you would be!

These ideas will help.

Listen To Music (and watch movies) That Lift Your Mood.

Where we turn to for entertainment has a great effect on how we view the world. Dark and depressing music and movies can make it very difficult for us to shift our mindset towards positivism.

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This only makes sense doesn't it?

Take a look at what you listen to in the car and on your MP3 player. Is this music that makes you smile and think of life's bright possibilities or does it have the opposite effect? The same question should be asked about the movies and television shows you watch for entertainment.

Making a move to clean these things up can have a tremendous effect on your subconscious mind. Of course an occasional scary movie won't hurt if that's what you enjoy, but do your best to indulge in music and movies that work with your goal of thinking positive, NOT against it.

Challenge Your Negative Thoughts 

Immediately with Positivism

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Negative thoughts can and will creep into our minds. It's unavoidable, especially in the beginning when we are just picking up the habit of holding a positive mindset. The trick is not letting them take root. By challenging them immediately with positivism we can deflate them of having any real influence over us. Whenever you feel yourself thinking negatively, re-frame your thoughts and consider the positive side of what's occurring. For this technique to work properly you must QUICKLY challenge these negative thoughts. The more you delay the more harm they will do.

Make A Powerful Set Of Affirmations.

We've already explored the power our words hold over our happiness. Now let's go deeper and use this knowledge to help boost our mindset with a daily affirmation.

An affirmation is simply a positive statement that you repeat to yourself first thing in the morning and before you go to sleep in the evening. It can also be used whenever you feel stressed out or your thoughts are drifting away from positivism.

Now you can write your own or you can use this famous one created by one of the original self-help authors in the early 1900's... "Each day, in every way, I am getting better and better". If you choose to write your own be sure to phrase things that you want and appreciate NOT negative things you're trying to avoid. So instead of saying "I'm not fat" you would say "I am fit and healthy". It's a secret to how our minds work that will make your affirmations take hold quicker and with more effect. Our minds can be tricky things!

The more positive your mindset, the happier you will be. So please take these suggestions and ideas very seriously.

WHY ARE YOU NOT HAPPY? Part 3

Learn To Love Yourself

 Before we can really love anyone else with conviction we need to learn to love ourselves. It's the first step towards achieving happiness, whose importance can't be overstated.

Once you learn to love that person looking back at you in the mirror you're sure to find the rest of our ideas and methods here much less of a struggle to implement. Loving yourself can be thought of as the oil that allows the internal machine of your happiness to run smoothly and efficiently. It's that vital to what we're trying to achieve!

Self-image issues can be hard to overcome if you're not familiar with the tried and true techniques that experts have developed to build self-esteem.

Put these following things into action and you may be shocked at how quickly you learn to love yourself. I've seen them work their magic again and again and there's no reason they won't work for you too!

Acknowledge Your Accomplishments

We can often be our own harshest critics, while in reality if we'd like to be happier we should be our very own biggest fan! Stop ignoring your accomplishments, whether in business, your social life, athletics or beyond. You should even be patting yourself on the back for caring enough about your own self-development to be studying this guide. Give yourself credit. You deserve it.

Remember Looks Are In The Eye Of The Beholder

Ask many models if they feel like they are beautiful and they'll tell you a firm "no". This is despite their becoming quite wealthy over the fact others find them attractive. This strange paradox is repeated again and again. If you look in the mirror and find yourself thinking that you are less than attractive, remind yourself that many people are sure to disagree. I guarantee it.

Be More Patient With Yourself

Sometimes we make mistakes. When you love someone and they stumble are you incredibly harsh with them? If you are you shouldn't be. And when you are learning to love yourself you shouldn't be harsh with yourself when you hit a bump in the road either. Patience is a virtue. Being more patient with yourself will relieve a huge amount of stress and pressure. Try it and see if you aren't happier almost immediately.

Occasionally Do Something REALLY Nice For Yourself

You may be picking up on the idea that treating yourself better is a path to learning how to love yourself. That's true as could be. Not only consciously, but perhaps more importantly on a subconscious level. When we've raised our sense of self-worth in our subconscious minds, things really fall into place.

Do you ever do anything nice for yourself?     

Maybe going to a movie or a restaurant you wanted to check out. Or picking up a little extra something to help you with that hobby you love. If you don't do this often, you need to start too. Pick a night a month (say the third Saturday night if you need a suggestion) and do something really nice for yourself. When you love yourself you deserve this type of treatment, so enjoy.

Now these may sound like simple suggestions, but they work. Positive self-change isn't always complicated. Loving yourself and happiness come hand in hand, so give these tips a try and watch and see each day feel better than the last.

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